Stop Being THAT White Person

Other White People Are Clearly A Problem — Act Like You Know That. If You Don't, You Are The Real Snowflake.

I grew up in Georgia and thought the shit I heard there was idiotic —
then I moved to Oklahoma for college.

Being white in America means you will, over and over again, hear some of the most ignorant, audacious, detached rhetoric come out of other white people’s mouths.

It means you will constantly be in rooms where the truth is treated like an inconvenience — and the moment you point it out, you’re the asshole.

Never as big of an inconvenience as the people you’re talking about are actually facing.
Never more uncomfortable than the harm we’re avoiding by staying silent.

So if you take nothing else from this — be that discomfort.

Because the burden of disrupting white comfort falls on those of us who actually give a shit — while the rest keep pretending they don’t know what’s happening.

Don’t feel sorry for us, feel embarrassed by them.

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You Can’t Say Anything Without “But What About...?”

Try having a real conversation about Black liberation, about Native American liberation — liberation for anyone other than their own justification — and here comes some white guy talking about “Black-on-Black crime.”

Let me be clear, here comes a dose of shut the fuck up.

Bring up land theft or colonization, and it’s: “Well, my family didn’t own slaves.”

Okay.
Is there a slave in your family line?

You sure?
Ever ask about a Freedman? No? Cool. Then sit down…with a capital F—

I have both enslaved ancestors and slave owners in my family tree. I have both Native American legacy and Caucasian American bigotry peppered in between it all. I don’t want the comfortable story - I want my true story. The REAL history and how it impacted people, now how they wanted to be remembered.

My 6th Great Grandmother: Angelique "The Indian Princess" Dumont (Hasinai)

My job as a descendant isn’t to defend you, it is to learn from you.

Mention reparations and watch people deflect like you just asked for their bank routing number. Try explaining structural violence and they cry about how it makes them feel.

You know what I don’t have a problem reflecting on?

Challenging — My family — History.

I’ve been the family documentarian for a while now —
not because I want to whitewash it, but because I want to understand it.
To learn from it.
To be honest about it.

You being related to me doesn’t mean shit unless we’re both pushing all of us forward. If you are family, read that part again.

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This isn’t ignorance.
It’s willful avoidance.
And if you’re white and you’ve ever been in those conversations and just let it slide —
you were part of the problem that day. Today. Every day.

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I’m Tired of Being in the Room

I’m tired of being in rooms where white people look me in the face and ask for proof that injustice exists — while people are dying.

I’m tired of white people saying parroted talking points they can’t defend and when you challenge it saying, “I don’t pay that close of attention to politics.”

I’m tired of white folks who say they care — but go dead silent when it’s time to confront their family, their church, their boss, their friends.

I’m tired of the whataboutism. The defensiveness.
The fragility disguised as “disagreement.”

You know who is over it more than I am — everyone who doesn’t look like me. If you’re white and you know better — act like it.

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White People: This Is On You

You don’t get a gold star for “not being racist.” You get points for challenging them.
You don’t get points for not assaulting someone. You get points for challenging them.
You don’t get to feel proud if you’ve never risked anything to speak the truth to someone who looks like you.

If you’re not correcting your people — you’re enabling them.

Being white should require disruption.

Accountability.
Presence.
Relearning.
Responsibility.

Not guilt.
Not pity.
Not silence.

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If You’re Uncomfortable — Good.

Sit in it. Stay in it.
Don’t run from it. Don’t center it.

People are dying. People are getting displaced.
People are living entire lives inside systems you benefit from and barely think about.

So the next time someone says something racist, ignorant, or dismissive:

Say something.
Shut it down.
Correct it.
Deconstruct it.

Even when it’s your dad. Your cousin, grandfather. Even when it’s your best friend.
Especially then.

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This Isn’t About You — But It Is Up To You

You don’t need to lead the march. You don’t need to speak over anyone.
But you do need to open your damn mouth when injustice walks into the room with you.

Don’t be the person who “gets it” — and still does nothing. And if you’re white, that action starts with holding the line — not just when it’s easy, but especially when it costs you something.

Because if you're not challenging whiteness — you’re upholding it.

So what do we do?
Dream Big, Act Bigger.